Two distinct formats — one private and clinical, one educational and open to the community.
I offer two very different intensive formats. The Weekend Couples Intensive is private clinical work — just the two of you and me, over two full days. The Relationship Boot Camp is something different entirely: an educational seminar open to couples and individuals, typically attended by fifteen to fifty people, focused on building relational skills through teaching, guided exercises, and reflection. Both are built on the RLT framework. The right format depends on where you are and what you need.
Two consecutive days of concentrated couples work — either Saturday and Sunday, or back-to-back Saturdays. Seven hours each day. The pace is different from weekly therapy: we go deeper faster, because we're not stopping just as things get real. There is time to address the presenting crisis, to do the underlying relational work that drives it, and to practice new responses in the room before you leave.
This format is particularly well-suited for:
Each intensive begins with a pre-weekend conversation — typically a phone or video call — so I have a clear sense of where you are before we begin together. The two days themselves are structured but responsive: we move according to what the couple needs, not a fixed agenda. A follow-up session approximately two to three weeks after the weekend reviews what has shifted and determines next steps.
The Relationship Boot Camp is a different experience altogether — an immersive two-day educational seminar grounded in the RLT framework, open to both couples and individuals. Groups typically range from fifteen to fifty participants. It is not therapy. It is structured learning: teaching, small-group exercises, guided personal reflection, and practice of the core relational skills that RLT identifies as foundational to intimate connection.
The curriculum moves through the essential RLT framework across the two days: the Tri-Part Psyche and how it shows up in conflict; the Five Losing Strategies and their winning counterparts; healthy listening, speaking from the relational self, and making requests rather than complaints; the Feedback Wheel as a practical communication tool; and the underlying relational beliefs and early-learned patterns that drive the most common relationship problems.
The boot camp is well-suited for:
There is something particular about learning relational skills in a group that cannot be replicated in individual or couples therapy. Hearing other people name the same patterns — recognizing that your Adaptive Child's favorite strategy is sitting in the room next to someone else's — normalizes and deepens the learning in a way that is genuinely different from private work.
Both formats run from approximately 9am to 4pm each day, with a lunch break. Boot camps are held at a venue suitable for group work; weekend intensives take place at my office at 400 Estudillo Ave in San Leandro. Dates are scheduled periodically throughout the year. Please contact me to be added to the notification list for upcoming boot camps or to discuss a weekend intensive.
If you are traveling from outside the Bay Area for a weekend intensive, I'm happy to recommend nearby accommodations.